Sometimes it is all I can do to bite my tongue. Other times my words come so quickly that I often regret them later. In my younger years, one of my favorite things to do was to unleash a violent tongue lashing on any unsuspecting idiot. As I have gotten older, I have learned that picking your battles can be quite effective in your relationships.
I usually have an extensive vocabulary that I love to spew at people when I am trying to get my point across. Today that is not the case. I cant seem to find the right words to express myself. I need to sit down and have a long conversation with a loved one, but for some reason I want to sugar coat everything. Confrontation has never bothered me, but this particular one I am dreading like a colonoscopy.
I have always been on this persons side and defended them until I was blue in the face. Today I find myself standing on the other side of the fence with the rest of the pointed fingers. I have had enough. I would really like to high five them in the face and ask them what in the french is wrong with them. I need to put on my big girl panties and really give them a piece of my mind.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
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I've always had a problem with biting my tongue. It's very hard for me especially seeing as how I'm known for being a bitch, or being blunt, or never holding back. There are occassions that I think back to the 9th grade when Mrs.Grabowski told me, "Your honesty and openess are very refreshing but sometimes you look better when you hold your tongue." It took me many years to understand that and in fact when she told me that I stuck out my tongue, I held it and tried to talk and I told her, "I don't think this is very attractive".
I think you are 100% correct, you have to know when to choose your battles. Sometimes silence and dipolmacy are better ways to set someone straight then to give them a verbal tongue lashing!
There is a way to give that verbal lashing with tact. While still being a complete bitch, you can come off as classy and most importantly, correct, and there's nothing they can do or say to stop that. Whether they feel your point is a good one or a bad one, it is, in fact, your reality, and no one can tell you that you that is wrong or incorrect.
But you HAVE to do it.
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